Lisa Calderwood, LCSW, CCTP, CTMH, CGP.
What Is Grief?
Grief is our response to loss.
Death of a loved one
Death of a pet
Loss of a relationship, friendship
Change can bring feelings of loss, such as moving away to another state. Transitions such as graduation from school and college can cause a grief response. Changing jobs or careers.
There are many emotions that come from the death of a loved one especially, one of the first emotions felt can be shock, denial and numbness.
Anger also tends to come with initial emotions of the loss. A part of the anger can be blame. Blaming of the doctors, hospital, staff and family members. When a death occurs, we need someone to blame to give us a sense of control in the situation. These feelings aren't rational and the griever may not always realize this at first.
In cases of sudden death due to an accident, suicide, or murder, blaming others is rational and can be difficult for the griever of these types of deaths to reconcile with. The most important thing a griever needs to know is what they are experiencing is normal, even if it doesn't always feel that way and you are not going crazy.